FEEL, THINK, DO

This method is a quick way for a parent to develop self-awareness, or ‘decide what you '(the parent) will do, or a quick and simple way to help a child problem solve.

For example - a child comes home and says they have forgotten their homework. You could have a calm conversation with them as ask how does that make you FEEL? If you can keep it to one word - ‘frustrated, sad’ - it is easier to separate thougths and feelings.

Then ask what they THINK - ‘I think the teacher will be mad’. That is an opportunity to empathize, and maybe review if it is a ‘one-off’, or a more chronic problem.

Then ask - what do you want to DO?” And help the child to come up with some ideas - call a friend, see if the homework is available online, tell the teacher first thing in the morning and see if they can make up the homework another way. If it is more of an ongoing issue - ideas can be put forward about that as well - always check your backpack before leaving school, for example.

FEEL, THINK, DO

Please review blog post from July 31, 2023 to see more about “Decide What You Will Do” - a variation, for parents on Feel, Think, Do.