POSITIVE DISCIPLINE FOR PRESCHOOLERS 1

As parents we often have a good grasp of how to show kindness. What might be harder is the language of firmness. Firmness is NOT incompatible with being gentle - one can be gentle and firm, as well as kind and firm.

For preschoolers it is important to be clear. Not being clear can create anxiety.

1) Start with clear expectations: As soon as you finish…..you can…….

2) Would you like to do this by yourself, or do you want/need my help?

3) Say it how it is! “This is bath time” or “ This is bedtime”.

4) Make sure your child knows or understands - “What do you think needs to happen before you can……?’

5) Invite co-operation: “ I need your help….can you figure our the most helpful thing you could do right now?”

6) Offer Limited Choices: “Would you rather set the table or help make the salad?”

7) Be clear: “I want to stay right next to me in the store”

8) Negotiate an agreement: “ If you are allowed to…..when will you be doing…..?

9) Follow Through: “Time to…..” or “What was our agreement?” - and then wait for their response. Don’t argue or get upset, just follow through with whatever was decided.